Shhhhh…Three Things You Should Always Keep Secret
May 5, 2016
I’m a believer in a good ole jinx and keeping a secret!
I’m not super superstitious, but there are some things, ideas and plans that I think should be left out of the public sphere until they’re concrete, confirmed and cemented.
I don’t know about you, but my mother brought me to the harsh reality that sometimes people pray against you. They listen intently to your dreams, goals and plans and go into the darkest parts of their heart and soul to wish evil on you, to wish that your plans fail and your dreams are killed. The hard part is definitively identifying who these dream killers are. Of course, what’s meant for you will always find you, but why even expose yourself and your dreams to potential negativity and hate?
I’m such a believer in vibes and energy (good and bad) being transferred that I do think sharing your most intimate plans with someone with ill intentions could have negative effects by shaking your confidence, introducing doubt and just pissing you off that someone you trust is being so negative. [bctt tweet=”You feel it in your bones when someone doesn’t support you. ” username=”iamianthia”] You don’t need that!
For me, if I dream someone is plotting against, praying against or wishing I didn’t make a trip I’d go insane. Like, why would you do that? You know I love to travel! Travel plans are near and dear to everyone’s heart, whether it’s a family trip, an all girls getaway or even honeymoon plans. I think the intimate details of these adventures should remain a secret until all systems are go and tickets, rooms and cars are booked! No one wants a hex placed on that Paris getaway!
Not my coins, honey! DO NOT mess with my coins! There’s a reason Beyonce jealously guards her projects and ventures and a reason we didn’t know about Lemonade until it dropped. Aside from her being a master marketer, I’d imagine it had a lot to do with hunkering down on her project and not having to focus on the noise in the market. I read something that says… [bctt tweet=”People want to see you doing good, but not better than them ” username=”iamianthia”] And I think this is so true! You have to guard and protect your business ventures like a lioness guards her cubs. Protect them from predators, hungry hyenas and…nature! The more you let people in on a plan that’s still so fragile and shaky, the easier it is to poke holes in it. I’ve actually lived this! Word got out that a former employer wanted to rehire me and the workers there weren’t having it…you can guess what happened from there!
“You’re my little secret and that’s how we should keep it.” While the ladies of 90’s R&B group Xscape sang these words about cheating, infidelity and being someone’s mistress…it can also apply to a monogamous relationship. Not because we’re trying to hide it or we’re embarrassed about it but new relationships, I think, should be off limits to the rest of the world. Get to know your partner, get to know yourself a little more, get to know the relationship before you solicit the input of others. Besides, nothing’s worse than introducing someone as your someone too soon and people (directly or indirectly) come at the relationship as if it’s a piñata. Go on dates, travel, take in a movie and some concerts, take pics…but share them months later! I’ve lived this as well! 😉